How To Avoid Time Wasters, Manipulators & Liars To Find Real Love | Stephanie Ike Okafor PT 1

Jul 10, 2024

Relationship coach Stephanie Okafor discusses redefining submission in partnerships, building trust, respecting boundaries, and prioritizing healthy communication. Topics include understanding love languages, balancing work and personal dreams, and addressing childhood traumas in relationships. Insights on leadership dynamics, loyalty, and the significance of clear communication in marriage.

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INSIGHT

Self-Focused Intentions in Relationships

Many relationships fail because people enter with self-focused intentions, expecting to be served rather than serving each other.
This focus on personal happiness over mutual service leads to a breakdown when reality sets in.

ADVICE

Qualities of a Good Husband/Partner: Leadership

Look for a partner who demonstrates good leadership, which includes being a student of something that fosters humility and love.
Pay attention to their influences, reading habits, and media consumption to understand their thinking and leadership style.

INSIGHT

Submission as a Trigger Word

The word "submission" can be triggering for women, leading to resistance against traditional relationship dynamics.
Understanding and respecting each other's innate wiring and needs are crucial for long-term relationship success.

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It’s Lisa Bilyeu and on this episode of Women of Impact I've got the amazing Stephanie Okafor with me, and oh boy, are we diving deep and getting real! This episode is all about shaking up what you think you know about submission in relationships. It's not what you think—it’s about strength, respect, and being a total badass in your partnership.

Stephanie gets raw and personal, sharing her journey and some seriously eye-opening biblical insights on what it really means to be vulnerable and respectful in love. We hash out why trust and transparency are crucial, how to tackle past traumas head-on, and the magic of truly understanding each other's love languages.

SHOW NOTES

00:00 Intention in relationships shapes expectations and dynamics.

05:48 Defensive response to feeling overlooked and undervalued.

11:32 Understanding and trusting each other's leadership.

17:53 Respect boundaries, avoid infidelity, nurture healthy relationships.

21:22 Healthy conversations vital for understanding beyond social media.

31:35 Balancing work, home, and personal dreams.

33:13 Supporting men's struggle with career and identity.

39:41 Prioritize love for self and others.

42:45 Hiding secrets, open up for healing.

48:00 Realizing childhood trauma affects desire for children.

53:42 Understanding behavior enables honest communication in relationships.

01:03:31 Trust and communication are crucial in marriage.

01:09:22 Christian perspective on women's role in marriage.

01:14:12 Learning healthy marriage for women is crucial.

01:18:12 Behavior reflects beliefs; address unhealthy marriage issues.

01:22:48 Mother's advice on independence and love impact.

01:27:44 Women have the right to desire what they want, and should take care of themselves.

01:35:21 Planning to stay together, aging makes spouse attractive.

01:41:06 Embrace change and growth in relationships.

01:44:39 Understanding each other like a fire analogy.

01:49:42 Pregnant woman suffers, finds relief in dream.

01:53:08 Learn manipulative tactics or become empowered, choose now.

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