AuDHD Flourishing 115 That Advice is Backwards
Oct 4, 2025
The discussion centers on why common advice can feel ineffective, often skipping necessary steps. Safety and emotional capacity are emphasized, revealing how sensory needs play crucial roles in creativity. Chronic shame is explored, highlighting its interference with progress. The importance of acknowledging small moments of safety is stressed as a way to foster a sense of well-being. Optimism is shown to flourish when basic needs are met, rather than forced. A new program promoting somatic pacing over productivity is also previewed.
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Advice Often Prescribes Outcomes Not Paths
- Many common pieces of advice ask you to perform the end-state emotion instead of teaching the steps to reach it.
- Mattia argues this mismatch makes advice ineffective for AuDHD and trauma-impacted folks.
Creative Work Needs Ready Materials
- Mattia cleaned their small office and found drawing only made sense when materials and space were accessible.
- Lack of access to materials made attempting creative work feel impossible for them.
Basic Needs Are Emotional Materials
- Meeting material, sensory, and basic relational needs creates the conditions for emotional capacities to emerge.
- Mattia frames these needs as "emotional materials" that enable presence and processing.