Sex for Saints Episode 378 - Maintenance Sex
Jul 18, 2025
Maintenance sex is often misunderstood as merely a chore, but it can be a sacred act of love. The discussion emphasizes intentional connection, transforming how couples approach intimacy. It's about being present with each other, even amidst life's chaos. Instead of seeing it as an obligation, couples are encouraged to cherish these moments to sustain emotional trust and physical closeness. Rediscovering this practice can reignite the spark in relationships and foster deeper connections.
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Duty Versus Chosen Intimacy
- Duty sex is motivated by obligation and fear, while maintenance sex is a voluntary choice to nurture connection.
- The distinction protects emotional safety and reframes sex as an expression of love, not compliance.
Friday Night Scenario
- Amanda gives a Friday-night scenario showing the emotional difference between bracing for duty sex and leaning into maintenance sex.
- In maintenance sex the partner breathes, honors boundaries, and chooses closeness rather than checking out.
Choose Good-Enough Intimacy
- Use maintenance sex to stay tethered when life (work, kids, pain, hormones) makes desire low for both partners.
- Accept 'good enough' affectionate mutual sex as the foundation for future trust and spontaneity.