Binchtopia The Great Resolution Delusion w/ Aliza Jay
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Jan 7, 2026 Aliza Jay, a clinical therapist and lesbian commentator, joins the discussion to unpack the psychology of New Year's resolutions. They explore why the idea of a 'fresh start' often leads to failure, emphasizing self-compassion over harsh self-judgment. Aliza dives into the complexities of lesbian dating roles and shares insights on breaking down societal expectations. The conversation also includes the neuroscience behind habit formation and practical tips for establishing tiny, sustainable goals that align with personal values.
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Debating Women Proposing To Men
- Julia and Aliza debate women proposing to men, with Julia uncomfortable and Aliza open but cautious about context.
- The discussion ties tradition, gender roles, and power dynamics to why proposals feel charged.
Eclipse Fear Turned Into Intrusive Thought
- Aliza panicked about accidentally looking at a solar eclipse and called Julia to help resist the urge to stare.
- They used practical avoidance (look at the floor) as a real-time coping trick for intrusive impulses.
Fresh-Start Effect Fuels Unrealistic Reboots
- New-year temporal landmarks create a contagious, hopeful push to set ambitious goals called the fresh start effect.
- This effect widens the gap between current and idealized future selves, making radical change feel possible but unstable.