Solo – The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life Getting Off The Relationship Escalator
Jun 23, 2020
In this engaging discussion, Amy Gahran, a journalist and author known for her work on unconventional relationships, dives into the complexities of the 'relationship escalator' and its societal expectations. She challenges traditional norms around relationships, advocating for alternatives like consensual non-monogamy and the idea of 'sexual friendships.' Amy discusses the privileges of marriage, the stigmas faced by singles, and emphasizes that redefining relationship success can lead to a more remarkable life filled with diverse connections.
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The Relationship Escalator Explained
- The relationship escalator is a powerful social script that defines a progressive path for intimate relationships.
- It feels like momentum carrying you, but every step is a choice with alternative options.
Couple Privilege Is Institutionalized
- Couple privilege grants legal, financial, and social benefits to partnered people that singles rarely access.
- Marriage institutionalizes many perks like tax advantages, property favors, and Social Security survivor benefits.
Duration Isn't The Sole Success Metric
- Society often measures relationship success by duration and conformity to institutions like marriage.
- Departures from the escalator, such as divorce or stepping off, are often misread as relationship failure.
