The Jim Fortin Podcast Ep 451: Throwback To Ep118: Getting Over Being Liked And Seeking Approval
Dec 11, 2025
Dive into the pitfalls of seeking universal approval, where the desire to be liked can drain your life energy. Discover how many let fear of disapproval stop them from speaking their truth. Realize that not everyone will resonate with you, and learn that people often project their ideas onto you rather than appreciating your true self. Jim shares his journey towards authenticity and emphasizes the importance of prioritizing personal transformation over the illusion of being liked. Embrace your true identity and set firm boundaries!
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Tribal Roots Of Needing Approval
- The urge to be liked comes from tribal survival wiring that seeks acceptance in a group.
- Jim Fortin connects this evolutionary drive to modern people-pleasing behaviors that drain peace of mind.
Personal Cost Of Avoiding Conflict
- Jim Fortin recalls years of people-pleasing where he avoided rocking the boat and stayed silent when contractors underperformed.
- He admits this cost him authenticity and peace of mind until he changed course.
Liking Is About Their Filters
- Whether people like you is mostly about their filters, interpretations, and model of reality, not your true self.
- Jim Fortin emphasizes that liking is tied to perceptions of content, not to the actual person.
