Honeydew Me 215. Q+A: "Why Does It Take Me So Long To Get Turned On?"
May 21, 2025
This conversation dives into the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, shedding light on how emotional connection impacts arousal. The hosts offer practical strategies for when things don't click right away. They also highlight the importance of open communication with partners about sexual needs, making intimacy less awkward. Listeners learn about the role of foreplay, the significance of lubrication, and even get a taste of audio erotica for spicing things up. It's a candid blend of expert advice and relatable anecdotes.
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Responsive Desire Explained
- Many people with vaginas experience responsive desire rather than spontaneous desire, meaning they need stimulation before feeling turned on.
- This need for more foreplay time is normal and does not mean someone is complicated or broken.
Myth of Spontaneous Desire
- Society and media often misrepresent sex as spontaneous desire, making responsive desire seem abnormal.
- Many feel pressured to "push through" before ready, causing frustration and self-doubt.
Communicating Needs Clearly
- Be honest and vulnerable with your partner about needing more time and validation to get turned on.
- Clearly express what you require in foreplay to avoid misunderstandings and foster support.