Elevator Systems - Bowen Family Systems Theory

S3 Ep18 Death with Priscilla Friesen

Nov 4, 2025
Priscilla Friesen, a seasoned family consultant and Bowen theory expert, shares her insights on navigating death through a family systems lens. She discusses how the dynamics of grief shift family roles and highlight the importance of open relationships in managing loss. Her perspective on emotional flexibility during grief encourages families to focus on practical solutions rather than solely on feelings. Additionally, Priscilla elaborates on how generational patterns of anxiety and loss can ripple through family systems, influencing behaviors and relationships.
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INSIGHT

Death Is A Family-Regulated Event

  • Priscilla Friesen: death is regulated by the family system rather than solely by the individual.
  • Variation in how families handle death provides clear information about their relational patterns.
ADVICE

Look For Role Redistribution

  • Use Bowen theory to see how one person's death redistributes roles and balance across the whole family.
  • Expect functional shifts and look for emerging leaders rather than focusing only on individual grief.
INSIGHT

Funerals Reveal System Openness

  • Murray Bowen emphasized open vs closed systems, emotional shockwaves, and funerals as central to family death reactions.
  • Funeral rituals and system openness reveal how a family manages death anxiety.
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