303. Starting Over is Hard but NOT Impossible with John Kim aka The Angry Therapist
Feb 15, 2024
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Therapist John Kim discusses rebuilding his life after divorce and giving up his dream of being a screenwriter. Topics include embracing self-worth and personal growth, reframing breakups, acknowledging red flags in relationships, and finding purpose and self-worth in transformative moments.
Reframing the end of a relationship as the expiration of a chapter can lead to personal growth and self-discovery.
Understanding and respecting different love languages is crucial for healthy relationships, requiring effort, communication, and appreciation of unique expressions of love.
Deep dives
Finding Purpose and Growth after a Divorce
In this podcast episode, host Alexis Fernandez interviews guest John Kim, the Angry Therapist. They discuss going through a divorce and the personal growth that can come from difficult life changes. They emphasize the importance of self-reflection, taking ownership, and reframing the end of a relationship as the expiration of a chapter. John shares his journey of rediscovering himself and finding fulfillment in helping others through his blog and coaching. They also highlight the significance of understanding and respecting different love languages in relationships.
Navigating Love Languages and Expectations in Relationships
The discussion explores the concept of love languages and the importance of understanding how each person gives and receives love in different ways. They share personal experiences and emphasize the need for effort, communication, and avoiding comparison in relationships. They encourage individuals to identify their own love language, communicate their needs without demanding, and appreciate the unique ways in which their partner expresses love.
Overcoming Victim Mentality and Embracing Personal Growth
The episode delves into the dangers of victim mentality in relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of taking responsibility for one's own healing and happiness, reframing negative experiences, and examining the black box of past relationships. They emphasize the value of self-reflection, letting go of expectations, and focusing on personal growth rather than jumping into new relationships too quickly.
Embracing All Parts of Your Story
The podcast concludes with the powerful message that all parts of one's story will be used and have value. They emphasize that even challenging experiences and hardships are essential for personal growth and building a meaningful life. The episode encourages listeners to embrace every chapter and find purpose in their unique journeys.
How do you rebuild your life when your marriage ends and your career feels like it’s stalling?
John Kim (The Angry Therapist) has walked that walk, after he got divorced in his 20s, and his dream of being a screenwriter became something he didn’t want any more.
After starting a masters in therapy, blogging his experiences on Tumblr, John’s life started down a path he never thought he’d end up on.