BHE 163 - THE SP/SX & SX/SP ROASTATHON - Courtney Joseph & Kristen
Aug 25, 2023
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Courtney Joseph and Kristen participate in a roast of the social-blind legends, discussing their limited personas and channels of engagement. They joke about social blinds being terrible judges of people and compare podcasting in the dark to being perceived on video. They also explore the annoying fixation of SX/SP types on romantic relationships and inappropriate sexual heat. The podcast highlights the social blind approach to social connections and the consequences of missing out on social co-regulation. Despite the challenges, the speakers find social blind obliviousness hilarious and freeing, emphasizing the personal personhood of social versus the personal flavor of sexual. They also share personal anecdotes about the feeling in the body of each blindspot and discuss what makes the social blinds amazing while acknowledging their own grievances with social blinds.
Social blindness can result in discomfort and challenges in forming deeper relationships due to a lack of awareness of social cues and dynamics.
Social blinds may objectify themselves and others, leading to shallow encounters and a failure to see the depth and personhood of individuals.
Being socially engaged and regulated by others is crucial for social blinds to experience genuine connection and support, and the lack of this co-regulation can lead to feelings of disconnection and missing out on rich experiences.
Deep dives
The Impact of Social Blindness and Isolation
Social blindness can lead to isolation and a lack of awareness of social cues and dynamics. This can result in discomfort in social situations, difficulty maintaining connections, and challenges in forming deeper relationships.
Objectification and Limited Perception
Social blinds may tend to objectify themselves and others, focusing on specific aspects or traits while neglecting the full complexity of individuals. This can lead to shallow encounters and a failure to see the depth and personhood of others.
The Importance of Co-Regulation
Being socially engaged and regulated by others is crucial for social blinds. The interrelatedness and mutual curiosity in social interactions provide valuable connection and support. Without this co-regulation, one may feel disconnected and miss out on the rich experiences of genuine connection.
Longevity and Lack of Substance
The blind spots in the social stackings, such as sexual self-pres and self-presexual, can hinder the longevity and substance of relationships. Focusing on limited aspects or novelty can prevent deeper connections and may lead to a lack of fulfillment.
The Challenges of Social Blindness
One of the main challenges discussed in the podcast is the difficulty experienced by individuals who are socially blind in understanding social cues and bids for connection. They often miss subtle signals and struggle to respond to them in real-time. While they may recognize these cues later, it feels like a recall rather than a seamless interaction. This challenge can lead to feelings of social disconnection and a sense of not being able to fully connect with others.
The Benefits of Social Blindness
Another point highlighted in the podcast is the unique perspective and agency that comes with being socially blind. Social blinds are described as being able to focus on their own individuality and personal experiences, free from the need to conform to social expectations and norms. This can lead to a sense of freedom and self-expression that is uninhibited by the judgments and dynamics that come with the social sphere. Additionally, social blind individuals are seen as authentic and unvarnished, providing a refreshing break from the social games and shallow interactions sometimes experienced in social contexts.
A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends.
— (7:55) Let the roasts begin
— (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers
— (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds
— (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people
— (20:21) Podcasting in the dark vs the social of communicating and being perceived on video
— (29:36) Are the social types actually roasting the social-blinds? / social blind roasts sound like personal grievances
— (37:30) SX/SP’s annoying fixation on romantic relationships and inappropriate sexual heat
— (42:50) The social blind life or death objectifying approach to social connections / the stagnation around sx flavor
— (50:14) Missing out and not participating in the field of relatedness and social co-regulation
— (1:03:10) Social blind obliviousness is hilarious and freeing
— (1:08:14) The personal personhood of social vs the personal flavor of sexual
— (1:10:36) Personal anecdotes of the feeling in the body of each blindspot
— (1:15:26) Why the social blinds are so amazing
— (1:23:29) What the social blinds hate about social blinds
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