Aubrey Marcus Podcast Does The Stuff You “Hate” Turn You On? w/ Carolyn Lovewell | #500
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Jun 11, 2025 
In this episode, Carolyn Lovewell, author of 'Existential Kink' and a master of shadow work, dives into the fascinating ways we can transform our hidden desires into empowerment. She discusses why people are attracted to negativity, emphasizing the healing potential of self-acceptance. Through vivid storytelling, she shares her experiences with pleasure through discomfort and how confronting our deepest struggles reveals true strength. The conversation unpacks the relationship between creativity, spirituality, and personal growth, encouraging listeners to embrace their unique journeys.
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The Victim Olympics Paradox
- Society rewards victimhood through a "Victim Olympics" dynamic but it locks people in disempowerment.
- Recognizing and embracing our shadow kinks can jolt us out of this disempowered identity.
Embracing Poverty Kink Transformed Life
- Carolyn recognized she was unconsciously turned on by her poverty and humiliation, which held her stuck.
- Through facing and embracing this kink, her identity shifted, enabling creative success and personal freedom.
Make Shadow Conscious to Heal
- Make unconscious kinks conscious through existential kink practice to reclaim personal power.
- Fully feel and love shadow parts to break their unconscious control over your life.
