Jefferson Fisher, a Texas board certified personal injury attorney and communication expert, returns to share valuable strategies for effective conflict management. They discuss the pitfalls of wanting to 'win' an argument and how to stay calm during disagreements. Fisher emphasizes the importance of emotional restraint and the Stoic principles of maintaining composure. They also reflect on the wisdom of elders, highlighting how patience and understanding can facilitate better communication in even the toughest conversations.
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Responding to Disrespect
When facing disrespect, wait for 10 seconds in silence to let their words settle.
Then calmly assert that their behavior is beneath your standard, flipping the power dynamic.
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Wisdom of Long Life Cycles
Older people gain wisdom by seeing long life cycles and patterns beyond immediate struggles.
This perspective helps us realize that current problems are transient and cyclical.
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Having the Last Word Strategically
Ryan Holiday once thought he had the last word in an argument but found a late reply he hadn't seen.
He chose to not respond, giving himself the lasting final word and peace of mind.
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What if you could learn a few simple, powerful tricks to handle arguments and conflict more effectively without losing your cool? In today’s Part 2 episode, communication expert Jefferson Fisher shares his practical approaches to communication that will help you stay calm, clear, and in control even in the heat of tough conversations.
Jefferson and Ryan talk about the urge to have the last word, the discipline it takes to remain composed in conflict, and the Stoic lessons on emotional control and restraint.
Jefferson Fisher is one of the most respected voices on communication and arguments in the world. He is a Texas board certified personal injury attorney and law firm owner of Fisher Firm. Millions of people and some of the world's leading brands come to Jefferson for advice and practical strategies to communicate more effectively.
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