Why Are We Protecting Men....Ever? Feat. Karrine Steffans PT 1

Jul 23, 2025

This week features bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson, also known as Karrine Steffans, famed for her memoir, 'Confessions of a Video Vixen.' She reflects on her groundbreaking work and the backlash it received 20 years ago. Elizabeth discusses the need to stop protecting men and reevaluates who we uplift in society. She emphasizes the importance of 'self-rescue' and how true self-care goes beyond surface level. Plus, enjoy a lively game of Trigger filled with humor and insight!

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Creating a Self-Care Bubble

Elizabeth Oveson shares her journey of creating a self-care bubble to protect her mental health.
She incorporates gym workouts, gardening, and minimal news consumption to maintain wellness amid chaos.

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Train for Self-Rescue

Prioritize self-rescue by developing physical and mental strength to protect yourself in dangerous situations.
Train your body to handle crises, as relying solely on others' help can be risky.

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Use Exercise to Release Anger

Use physical exercise to release negative energy and overcome emotional distress.
Transform frustrations from bad encounters into productive workout efforts.

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This is a 2 part episode. For early unedited access to Part 1 & 2 of this episode, sign up to Patreon now!

This week, Erica and Milah are joined by bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) to reflect on the 20-year anniversary of her groundbreaking memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen.

Elizabeth was one of the first women in the public eye to live unapologetically in her truth refusing to censor her experiences, her sexuality, or her voice. Two decades later, she returns to Good Moms Bad Choices to chat about what it means to reclaim her body, her story, and her peace.

In Part 1 of this two-part ep covers:

The reaction to Confessions 20 years ago, and how telling her story reshaped the industry and even cost her safety
Why she’s not interested in protecting men and upholding the wrong icons, and why you should stop also!
What it means to “self-rescue” and why self care goes beyond massages and skin care
& A fun game of Trigger!

For early unedited access to Part 2 of this episode, sign up to Patreon now!

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