In this engaging conversation, Sam Kelly, a feminist coach for mothers and the creator of the 'Notice and Do' concept, shares insights on reducing parenting stress. She emphasizes the importance of teaching kids essential life skills to alleviate the mental load on parents. Sam discusses the 'big three' tasks vital for developing responsibility and independence in children. Her innovative 'notice and grab' grocery shopping method turns errands into learning experiences, empowering kids while fostering family harmony and collaboration.
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Teach Kids The Big Three
Teach kids the "big three" daily cleaning tasks to build household skills and ownership.
Guide them to notice what needs doing and have open conversations about gender equity and the mental load.
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Executive Skills Over Laziness
Parents often mistake teens' lack of initiative as laziness rather than skill gaps.
Developing executive functioning skills is crucial for teens' success and should be taught patiently.
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Avoid Chore Charts
Avoid chore charts as they skip teaching kids how to notice tasks themselves.
Use "notice and do" to share mental load and build skills and empathy among family members.
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Stress can be a major problem for parents who're constantly juggling tasks and responsibilities. The mental load can feel overwhelming at times and the list literally never ending. So when I discovered Sam Kelly has a brilliant way to:
✅Avoid burnout. ✅Have a happier home life. ✅Help our kids to be successful in life. ✅Avoid nagging. ✅Break the old stereotypes cycle.
I had to get her on the show. A mother and feminist coach, Sam is teaching parents how to share the mental load with the whole family and increase our kid's chances of having a happy life at the same time.
She summed up what I've been struggling with my entire adult life: the fact that if we don't learn household skills at home it's way harder to develop them as adults when we have busy lives, careers, and our own family.
Some of Sam's key suggestions are:
Teach kids the "big three" daily tasks to build cleaning skills.
Guide kids on how to "notice" what needs to be done around the house.
Have "cycle breaking conversations" with kids about gender equity and mental load.
Try the "notice and grab" approach when grocery shopping with kids.
You can find Sam on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/samkelly_world/
And her own website at: https://hellosamkelly.com/
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