Slate Daily Feed Death, Sex & Money | From Brazilian Butt Lifts to Botox: Your Beauty Confessions
Sep 23, 2025
In this insightful discussion, actor and writer Nick Dote shares his journey through addiction and the world of cosmetic surgery, revealing how these experiences strained his marriage. He reflects on the pressures of appearance and the deeper issues that surgeries couldn't resolve. The episode also features compelling listener stories, touching on extravagant beauty investments and personal transformations, including one listener’s $43,000 worth of procedures and another's choice to embrace her natural gray hair despite family pushback.
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Costly Cosmetic Commitment
- Asher catalogued $43,000 of cosmetic procedures including a BBL and chin implant that he saved up for and proudly shared.
- He openly tells people about his surgeries and treats them like investments in himself.
Delay Major Cosmetic Decisions
- Wait until you can make deliberate choices about cosmetic work, ideally after your 20s.
- Asher argues you avoid regrets by deciding when you're more financially and emotionally stable.
Hair Preservation For Identity
- Asher uses finasteride to prevent hair loss because he values barbershop rituals and wants hair before marriage and children.
- Hair maintenance felt personally important beyond vanity for his identity.
