The podcast explores how childhood trauma can lead to toxic relationships with narcissists, manipulators, and liars. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing self-sabotage behaviors and taking charge of healing. The speaker discusses setting boundaries, addressing distorted thinking, and seeking therapy for personal growth and stability.
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Quick takeaways
Staying focused on others' faults can breed helplessness and self-sabotage, especially for those with childhood trauma.
Setting and maintaining boundaries is vital for moving away from toxic relationships and taking control of your life.
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Recognizing Patterns in Relationships
It's common to fall into unhealthy relationships with individuals who mistreat you, especially if you've experienced neglect or abuse in childhood. Staying focused on the other person's faults can lead to a sense of helplessness and self-sabotage in your own life.
Overcoming Codependency and Boundaries
Trying to fix someone's issues based on your own traumas and seeking attention from unhealthy relationships can indicate codependent behavior. Setting and maintaining boundaries is crucial in moving away from toxic relationships and taking control of your life.
Parenting in the Midst of Abuse
In situations involving abuse and trauma, protecting your child from drama and ensuring a stable environment is paramount. Seeking professional help, establishing clear boundaries with the abuser, and engaging in self-care practices like the daily practice can aid in creating a safe and nurturing environment for both you and your child.
It’s easy to get sucked into terrible relationships with people who treat you badly, especially for people who were mistreated and neglected as children. You may find yourself with narcissists, manipulators, liars and people who just plain grind your spirits down. But so long as you stay hyper-focused on what’s wrong with THEM and what THEY did – the more you may come to see yourself as helpless – and the longer you may be participating in the sabotage of your own future. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman with CPTSD who has not yet learned to take charge of her healing and her life.