TED Talks Daily Why you should disappoint your parents | Desiree Akhavan
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Apr 11, 2024 
Desiree Akhavan, a bold filmmaker and advocate for authenticity, shares her journey of coming out to her Iranian immigrant parents. She candidly explores the struggle between parental expectations and personal freedom, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery. Through her experiences, she reveals how cultural narratives often dictate obedience, yet urges listeners to embrace their true selves, even at the cost of disappointing loved ones. With relatable anecdotes and empowering insights, she inspires others to redefine success on their own terms.
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Parental Expectations vs. Disney Princesses
- Desiree Akhavan's mother disapproved of Ariel's disobedience in The Little Mermaid, preferring Belle's selflessness.
- She contrasted this with immigrant children's expected sacrifices, questioning when their lives become their own.
Disappointing Parents as a Positive Act
- Children of immigrants are raised to prioritize their parents' and community's expectations over their own.
- Akhavan challenges this notion, suggesting that disappointing parents can be beneficial.
Generational Differences and Homophobia
- Akhavan's parents had a quick, traditional marriage, contrasting with her own experience.
- She recounts a family friend saying they'd rather their child have cancer than be gay, highlighting the cultural stigma.
