The Dildorks Sweetly Greedy
Jul 29, 2025
This discussion dives into the notion of selfishness in sexual encounters, unpacking how prioritizing personal pleasure can coexist with mutual satisfaction. From exploring the dynamics of bottoming and topping to reflecting on the roles individuals play, the conversation challenges societal norms around intimacy. Listeners are treated to insights on vulnerability, communication, and the interplay of desire. Playful anecdotes add depth, highlighting the importance of diverse identities and experiences in understanding sexual relationships.
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Reframing Sexual Selfishness
- Selfishness can mean either lacking consideration or prioritizing one's own pleasure, and those are different behaviors.
- Prioritizing your pleasure isn't inherently harmful if you remain aware of your partner's needs.
Culture Shapes How Selfishness Is Seen
- Straight sexual culture's orgasm gap shapes how selfishness is judged and often casts selfishness negatively.
- Queer and kink communities normalize discussing desires and broaden what counts as sexual pleasure.
Negotiate Roles And Desires Upfront
- Talk about what you want before sex to reduce shame and mismatched expectations.
- Negotiate roles like topping or bottoming so both partners get the kinds of pleasure they want.
