113: Dating 6+ Months: How To Build The Foundation For A Healthy And Secure Relationship

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Dec 13, 2024

The conversation dives into the critical six-month milestone in relationships, as couples transition from the honeymoon phase to a more stable connection. Key topics include the importance of clear communication, emotional safety, and addressing core values. Sabrina highlights green flags like shared goals and open dialogue, while cautioning against red flags such as conflict avoidance. Discussions about intimacy, finances, and the balance between individuality and togetherness are essential as relationships deepen. Emphasizing that love should evolve naturally, she encourages couples to invest time in truly understanding one another.

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INSIGHT

The Real Work Begins

The six-month mark in a relationship signifies a transition from the honeymoon phase to a more serious stage.
This is when the real work begins, as dopamine levels decrease and the focus shifts to stability.

INSIGHT

Neuroscience of Love

The brain's dopamine levels drop after six months, reducing the chase for novelty and increasing the desire for stability.
Oxytocin, associated with long-term love, is built on trust and safety rather than excitement.

ADVICE

Compatibility Check

Address core values and life goals after six months.
It's normal for relationships to end during this period due to mismatches.

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Today Sabrina discusses the pivotal six-month mark in relationships, when things shift from the honeymoon phase into a deeper, more stable phase of connection. At this point, dopamine levels balance out, and oxytocin shifts, often turning spontaneity into predictability. This is when core values and life goals start to surface, and it’s important to recognize that a relationship might not work out if there’s a fundamental mismatch between you and your partner.

By this stage, communication should be clear and consistent, and both partners should feel comfortable expressing their needs, whether it’s a desire for reassurance or a different approach to communication. Sabrina shares how conversations surrounding intimacy, conflict, and boundaries should be happening more naturally, as should talking about issues like differing sex drives or personal preferences. Emotional safety becomes a priority, with vulnerability and mystery coexisting in a healthy balance.

At this stage, green flags include clear communication, emotional safety, and shared long-term goals, while red flags include avoiding conflict or being overly controlling. As relationships deepen, it’s also time to discuss practical matters like finances, living together, and balancing individuality with togetherness. Sabrina emphasizes that a relationship should not feel rushed and that it’s important to take the time to truly understand each other, address issues thoughtfully, and ensure mutual investment in the relationship.

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