This podcast explores why people come back after a break up, including motivations like lust and self-interest. It also discusses the honest reasons for returning, such as the desire for freedom and the challenges of loneliness. The podcast addresses whether taking an ex back is a good idea, and emphasizes the importance of maintaining standards and being confident after a breakup.
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One reason someone may come back after a breakup is because they are motivated by horniness and selfishness, seeking validation and a sexual connection.
Another reason someone may come back is because the single life isn't as fulfilling as they had imagined, realizing that pursuing casual encounters or new connections doesn't lead to long-term happiness.
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Reasons They Come Back: Horniness and Selfishness
One reason someone may come back after a breakup is because they are motivated by horniness and selfishness. They seek validation and a sexual connection, often described as 'reclamation sex,' which is a selfish endeavor to relive the heightened experiences they had with you. This can be harmful for you as they prioritize their own gratification without considering the potential emotional consequences for you.
Reasons They Come Back: Discontent with Single Life
Another reason someone may come back is because the single life isn't as fulfilling as they had imagined. They may fantasize about the freedom and excitement of being single, but often they realize that pursuing casual encounters or new connections doesn't lead to long-term happiness. They may then gravitate back to you, seeking the comfort and validation they miss, even if it means forfeiting the illusion of freedom.
Reasons They Come Back: Comfort and Fear
The third reason for someone's return is their yearning for comfort and fear of being alone. They may feel lonely after the breakup or undergo their own heartbreak or rejection, causing them to seek solace in familiar territory. Returning to you provides that sense of home and staves off the daunting task of working through their own personal demons and healing. However, this is risky for you as it doesn't guarantee their growth or genuine progress.
You can set your watch to it. They flake or break up with you . . . you spend weeks — in fact, months — hurting and getting over them, and just as you realize you no longer think about them all the time and begin to feel happy again, you get the text. “Hey, how you doing?” Does this sound familiar? I suspect it does . . . So what is this phenomenon? Why do they always come back? What does it mean? And more importantly, what do you SAY when they do? In today’s episode, I talk about 5 possible reasons why they come back. ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in 6 Magical Days. Learn More About The Matthew Hussey Retreat at. . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Pre-Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com
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