Episode 436: A Definitive Guide To Better Oral Sex

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Sep 30, 2025

Joining the conversation are Chris Maxwell-Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose, co-creators of PleasureMechanics.com, experts in erotic education. They discuss why there's no one-size-fits-all technique for oral sex and the importance of exploration. Listeners learn how to overcome common roadblocks like boredom and discomfort, as well as new positions to enhance pleasure. They also delve into transforming oral sex from a duty into a joyful experience, highlighting enthusiasm as the secret ingredient to great oral encounters.

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INSIGHT

Oral Sex Is Deeply Personal

There is no single perfect technique for oral sex because preferences are highly personal and multisensory.
Focus on what your mouth enjoys and make oral a personal expression, not a performance.

ADVICE

Do An Oral Preference Inventory

Inventory your mouth preferences by noticing foods, textures, and sensations you enjoy or dislike.
Communicate those preferences with your partner to find shared pleasures and explore together.

ADVICE

Add Layers To Beat Boredom

Combat boredom by changing positions, adding hands, or activating fantasy to layer arousal.
Open your eyes and attend to sensory details to deepen the experience.

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Oral sex is one of the most popular bedroom activities. However, while most people say that it can be highly pleasurable, it doesn’t always feels great. So in today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to make oral sex better. Specifically, we’ll explore tips and techniques from the Pleasure Mechanics for being both a good giver and receiver, including what to do if you find yourself getting bored giving oral sex.

I am joined by Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose, co-creators of PleasureMechanics.com. They have devoted their lives to generating online resources to support folks in cultivating more erotic pleasure, joy, and connection. They also run a podcast called Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Why is the idea that there’s just one perfect “recipe” for oral sex a myth?
How do you deal with common roadblocks that interfere with your ability to enjoy performing oral sex, like boredom or discomfort?
What are some new positions or approaches that can elevate oral experiences?
What should you do if oral sex feels like it has become a duty or obligation instead of something you love doing?
What are the key factors that make oral sex great?

To learn more, sign up for the Pleasure Mechanics Oral Sex Mastery course.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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