Healing Childhood Trauma The 3 Biggest Communication Mistakes you’re making if you have an Insecure Attachment Style [Ep 20]
Let’s talk about the subtle ways we push people away - even when we don’t mean to.
In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 communication habits that can quietly damage connection, especially if you’ve learned to protect yourself by not being fully honest about what you need.
Here’s what we cover:
- Why over-explaining isn’t clarity - it’s a nervous system trying to feel safe
- How emotional distance and avoidance can cause resentment and fuel conflict
- The sneaky habit of expressing needs through small, surface-level complaints instead of saying what’s really going on
These patterns aren’t about being “bad at communication.” They usually form when it hasn’t felt safe to be direct, or when your needs were ignored or dismissed in the past.
This episode will help you spot the moments you disconnect from your truth and away from healthy communication.
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MAY 17th 11am-1pm GMT+1 🚨 Book by May 10th for Early Bird Pricing 🐥
If you shut down in conflict or get stuck in anxious-avoidant dynamics, this is for you.
I’ll be guiding you through how to manage conflict so you don’t resort to childlike behaviour or become unnecessarily critical. I’ll teach you how to respond in a way that builds connection without abandoning yourself.
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- Learn the communication mistakes that make conflict worse and how to change it
- To shift your usual communication style so you can be clear, concise and rational
- How to stop people pleasing and over explaining yourself
Imagine:
- Not spending days overthinking what you could have said better
- Communicating from a place of calm instead of insecure attachment
- Feeling more connected in your relationships so you don’t have to fear abandonment and rejection
Spots are limited and I’d love to have you join us.
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