In this powerful episode, Kelley is joined by Daria Burke for a truth-filled, liberating conversation about breaking up with performative ambition and reclaiming what success feels like, rather than how it looks. Together, they explore how Black women can move beyond hustle culture, make room for joy, and embrace post-traumatic growth. This episode invites you to stop waiting for “later” and start living on your own terms now.

What You’ll Learn:

Why it’s time to stop mistaking ambition for identity
The quiet danger of "performing wellness"
How to move from self-improvement to self-examination
The signs and power of post-traumatic growth
Why tending to your joy isn’t optional — it’s essential

Key Takeaways & Timestamps:

[06:10] – From Self-Improvement to Self-Examination

Daria explains why self-improvement can become another form of hustle—and how self-examination invites softness, clarity, and truth.

[14:50] – Burn the Bucket List

This is the moment that names the episode: a rallying cry to abandon achievement checklists and start asking, “Does this feel good?”

[21:00] – There Is No Later

A mic-drop reminder that deferring joy is a trap. The life you want isn’t down the road—it’s in your daily decisions now.

[25:00] – The Power of Post-Traumatic Growth

Daria introduces PTG and unpacks how growth after hardship is not only possible but already happening for many Black women.

[33:00] – Joy Is Not a Luxury, It’s Medicine

A bold truth: chronic stress is harming us. Prioritizing joy, rest, and pleasure is not selfish—it’s survival.

🔗 Connect with Daria Burke:

Instagram: @dariaburke
dariaburke.com
LinkedIn newsletter: The Power of Possibility
Buy her debut memoir, "Of My Own Making."

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