We Can Do Hard Things Jen Hatmaker: What Are You Pretending Not to Know?
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Sep 23, 2025 
Join bestselling author and advocate Jen Hatmaker as she delves into the profound truths about confronting inner turmoil. She candidly shares the moment she discovered her husband's infidelity and the painful repercussions of living in denial. Jen discusses her journey through codependency, the power of reclaiming agency, and rethinking faith amidst personal upheaval. Embracing vulnerability, she also reflects on the unexpected joys of preparing for grandmotherhood while navigating her newfound freedom.
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The Night That Changed Everything
- Jen heard her husband voice-texting his girlfriend at 2 a.m. and sat straight up in bed because everything changed in that moment.
- She calls that the before-and-after line that ended her life as she knew it.
Knowing Versus Wanting A Story
- Jen recognized she had been sensing trouble long before confirmation and texted Glennon: "we're in trouble.".
- She admits she knew but refused to accept the truth because she wanted the story of the marriage.
Cost Of Denying Inner Alarms
- Living with internal alarms and denying them corrodes the soul and causes ongoing self-erasure.
- Jen found it better to live honestly alone than to stay in a marriage while suffering.
