#197 Why Marriage Benefits Men More Than Women (And Leaves You Exhausted)

Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you.

He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while your life expectancy is shortened, and you slowly find yourself erased in the roles of mother and wife. This is called the marriage benefit imbalance.

Our super traits of empathy, loyalty, and responsibility make us successful, but in love, they keep us stuck. They keep us loyal when we should have left, forgiving when nothing changes, and working harder when we should be doing less. Over time, this imbalance leaves us exhausted, disconnected, and blaming ourselves.

It is not your hormones, it is not that you are asking too much, it is not that you just cannot be happy. We have been surviving in a system that was never designed to fuel us. Our brilliance is undeniable, but without a new framework, our relationships will continue to drain us rather than nourish us.

This is why I created the pleasure-centered method. It is a reeducation in sex, love, feeling, and living. It rewires us from survival and overgiving into intimacy and erotic connection. If you are ready to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your ability to be fully met.

Join me for the eight-week live group coaching intensive and learn to put pleasure back into all areas of your life.

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