Non-Monogamy Help Episode 172 - Forcing Kitchen Table
Dec 26, 2025
Explore the complexities of non-monogamy as the host dives into listener dilemmas about entanglement and household conflicts. Discover why metamours aren't obligated to forge friendships, and how pressure can lead to resentment. Learn the importance of respecting boundaries and stepping back when necessary. Find out how to support a partner without acting as a mediator, and the difference between boundaries and controlling rules. It's a vibrant conversation packed with insights on navigating relationships authentically.
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Step Back And Respect Metamour Boundaries
- Step back from trying to force friendship with your metamour and respect their boundaries.
- Tell M you will stop getting involved in details and support them without mediating their conflict.
Friendship Can't Be Demanded
- Forcing closeness in polyamory creates resentment rather than connection.
- Expecting kitchen-table style relations is not a default requirement of non-monogamy.
Cultural Scripts Shape Metamour Expectations
- Being asked to be friends with a metamour can feel like coercion and trigger hostility.
- Social expectations from monogamy don't map cleanly onto polyamory dynamics.