#342; when knowing what to do isnt enough; emotional eating, body image, shame, guilt, self sabotage... / Michelle Carroll

@transformxruby 

https://www.instagram.com/michellecarroll1

• Whats important to me

• What does my life look like now

• What does my ideal life look like

How mindset, your philosophy (or way of thinking about) your goals, your journey, your transformation  can take you further from your goals, have you feel worse about yourself, more out of control and less happy…

Ie focusing on outcomes, rushing results, body image fixations, how tehy contribute to self sabotage

• “Aesthetics and looks” are the sole reason

• Body image isnt to say you can never care appearance again

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Why do you feel there is such dissonance around this

I would purport something to do with being so busy with doing things and chasing things we don't slow down to even challenge it… 

How we are feeling

How your relationship with food is actually reflective of you

“Im feeling fat/fluffy” - lets chat

Why do clients over eat or emotionally eat and how can you both challenge it, create a helpful framework for it, and help them through it - reinforcing its not something you fix but something you need to address and work it

Why emotional eating is a vague unhelpful term, you need to celebrate awareness of it and start to figure out the emotions ACTUALLY present, stress isnt one - thats an umbrella… 

• How can striving to be the best at X or work harder blah blah feed into our body and health struggles?

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What stops people from leaning into change and creating a better relationship with self and body for example i know people are scared to really let go because they fear they will get lazy, flow up, be too soft on themselves or get more out of control when its the opposite

Obsessed with food and wanting to “be normal” is really a mindset thing where you are overvaluling an outcome NOW and coming from a negative place. Lets discuss 

What do you have to say about people looking at other peoples transformations or where does social media fit in - i coach transformation to their best mental, emotional and physical selves where getting leaner may be a part of it - but our perceptions arent reality and it can be more distorted by what we expose ourselves to

How about when you are fixated on family over self where you put yoruself last

Loneliness & other emotions / factors that go into binge eating, emoptionsl eating, overeating etc

Body fixation and wanting to fix ourselves