Savage Lovecast Episode 945

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Dec 10, 2024

A trans man shares his struggle for acceptance in gay spaces, feeling isolated during a lively dance party. A woman reflects on the challenge of rekindling passion with her sweet partner after dating 'bad boys.' Meanwhile, a comedian connects JonBenét Ramsey's murder to a lively discussion on sex parties and podcaster dynamics. Finally, a listener grapples with the emotional fallout of a kink introduction from a ghosting partner, seeking to reclaim their journey towards pleasure and acceptance.

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Navigating Gay Spaces as a Trans Man

Go to gay bars with friends to appear more approachable and integrated.
Putting yourself out there increases your chances of meeting someone.

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Creating Sexual Passion

Turn a good guy into a "bad guy" by exploring adventurous activities together.
Embrace shared adventures to reignite passion in a relationship.

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Honesty in Relationships

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" won't work if you need emotional connection for sex.
Fight for open communication with your partner about sexual needs.

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A trans guy just can't break into gay male spaces. He feels ridiculed and rejected, and ends up sitting in a corner alone while the sweaty dance party goes on around him. He used to be confident before his transition. How can he get a little of that male swagger and bed a hot twink?

A female used to date "bad boys"- the kind of guy who turned her on sexually but made terrible partners. Now she's with a sweet man who treats her well, but the heat isn't there. Can she train him to turn her on?Can she train herself to be turned on by him?

On the Magnum, what happens when you invite chatty, blabby podcasters to your sex party? Will they kiss and tell...everyone? Dan brings on comedian Ashley Ray to talk about this, and her obsession with the ancient JonBenét Ramsey murder. The plucky comedian has studied the case intensively and her long Substack piece about the crime and its coverage roped in a curious Dan Savage. C'mon amateur sleuths! Let's crack this case already!

And, a woman with a few lovers met a new guy who introduced her to kink, and opened up a whole new erotic world for her. Then he unceremoniously ghosted her. Now, when she tries to explore this kink with others or even on her own, she breaks down sobbing. It feels like she got rejected by the kink itself. How can she take the good of what the guy gave her and leave the feeling of rejection behind?

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From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the mid-1800s.