Soft Skills Engineering Episode 475: Am I too loyal to my big tech job and politely preserving time
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Aug 25, 2025 The hosts delve into the dilemma of choosing between a high-paying job offer and an internal transfer, weighing loyalty against career growth. They discuss the complexity of professional relationships and the importance of clear communication during transitions. The conversation takes a humorous turn as they tackle the challenge of managing workplace venting, emphasizing the need for boundaries and professionalism. They also explore effective feedback strategies, advocating for caring and constructive dialogues in tech environments.
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Take Large Pay Jumps And Tell People Directly
- If an external offer pays ~2x your compensation, take it unless other uncounted equity or mission issues change the math.
- Tell your managers honestly and individually to avoid invented malignant narratives and preserve relationships.
Director Resigned Right After Hiring
- Dave accepted an internal transfer to report to a director who then resigned the next day.
- He didn't burn the bridge and would work for that director again despite the awkward timing.
Ask For A Counter Offer If You Want To Stay
- Consider whether a counter-offer from your current employer would make you stay and identify the minimum number that would.
- Bring that number up calmly to see if staying is financially viable instead of quitting immediately.