The Genius Life 521: Why Teens Act the Way They Do (and What Adults Get Wrong) | Ann-Louise Lockhart, PhD
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Oct 29, 2025 Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a clinical psychologist specializing in teen behavior and the author of 'Love the Teen You Have', dives deep into understanding adolescent actions. She emphasizes the importance of connection over control, debunking the myth that teens are inherently difficult. Discussing the effects of social media and the significance of flexible schooling, she also shares insights on ADHD, skill-building, and the need for healthier lifestyles. Lockhart advocates for self-care among parents to improve family dynamics and foster better relationships.
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Parents Misread Teens' Actions
- Parents often misinterpret teen behavior because they parent from their own past instead of getting curious.
- Ann-Louise Lockhart says understanding the teen's perspective reduces friction and improves connection.
Rebellion As Individuation
- Teen rebellion often reflects individuation and a bid for identity, not pure defiance.
- Lockhart reframes many conflicts as attempts to connect or assert autonomy.
Ask Before You Punish
- Ask curious, specific questions to uncover why a teen avoids tasks instead of immediately punishing them.
- Teach skills (discipline) after you know the barrier, rather than using punishment that only stops behavior temporarily.
