Setting Boundaries with Draining People w/ Emily Sanders

In this conversation, Nina and Emily explore the complexities of setting boundaries in relationships, particularly focusing on family dynamics and the emotional challenges that arise. They discuss the importance of recognizing draining relationships, the cultural influences that shape our boundary-setting behaviors, and practical steps to establish healthier interactions. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the courage to prioritize one's own needs while navigating the guilt that often accompanies boundary setting. In this conversation, Nina and Emily delve into the complexities of setting boundaries, particularly in female friendships and family dynamics. They explore the feelings of guilt that often accompany boundary setting and provide strategies for effective communication. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and the need to manage one's emotional responses after asserting boundaries. Emily shares practical scripts and techniques for navigating difficult conversations, highlighting the significance of understanding personal values and the impact of emotional maturity in relationships.

00:00: Understanding the Roots of Boundary Issues

02:48: The Importance of Boundary Setting in Relationships

05:58: Identifying Draining Relationships

08:59: Navigating Family Dynamics and Boundaries

12:06: Cultural Influences on Boundary Setting

15:01: Overcoming Guilt in Boundary Setting

18:03: Practical Steps for Setting Boundaries

21:01: Scripts for Boundary Setting in Real Life

22:38: Navigating Guilt in Boundary Setting

26:12: Effective Communication Strategies for Boundaries

29:34: Setting Boundaries with Family Dynamics

37:07: Calming the Nervous System After Setting Boundaries

Emily Sanders received her Bachelor’s degree from Life Pacific College in counseling ministry, and received her Master’s of Science degree from Vanguard University of Southern California.

Emily has been practicing for over 13 years, and knows from personal experience the courage it takes to walk on the road to healing and self-discovery; she works with compassion to support others on their path to restoration, empowerment, and fulfillment. You can find Emily at emilysanders.com or emily.sanders.therapy on Instagram

In her free time Emily can usually be found outside running, hiking, or riding her bicycle along Pacific Coast Highway. She also enjoys browsing Pinterest for new dinner recipes, chatting with her girlfriends, and spending quality time with her family.

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