Sonya Lutter is the Director of Financial Health and Wellness at Texas Tech Univeristy School of Financial Planning. She leads curriculum and continuing education in the areas of financial psychology, financial therapy, and financial behavior. Sonya is also the owner of ENLITE.world, a research and training consultancy firm for financial planners and therapists.

In this episode of Mindful Money, I talk with Sonya about how our earliest experiences with money shape our relationships. We unpack money scripts, financial behaviors, and why communication—especially early on—is essential to long-term satisfaction. Sonya shares research-backed insights on joint accounts, premarital money conversations, and why some couples never talk about finances at all. We also dive into her book Love & Money: which offers practical exercises to help couples navigate finances with empathy, clarity, and connection. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who wants to strengthen their relationship through financial wellness.

In this episode:

(00:00) - Intro
(01:14) - Meet Sonya Lutter
(03:15) - Sonya’s upbringing and early experiences with money
(09:03) - Sonya’s early career in financial planning
(10:52) - Statistics for money conflicts in relationships
(12:52) - Shared finances and relationship satisfaction
(17:14) - Financial therapy and Sonya’s book
(22:46) - Understanding money scripts
(25:11) - Advice for financial advisors
(33:20) - Improving couples’ financial conversations
(37:34) - Pitfalls of financial disengagement
(39:26) - Personal reflections and final thoughts

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Sonya Lutter — The Intersection of Love and Money with Sonya Lutter