Delve into the dual meanings of 'fix'—both correcting problems and solidifying aspects of life. Discover how the quest to fix ourselves stems from fear and the illusion of a fixed identity. Learn that nothing is truly fixed; everything is in a state of constant change. The podcast encourages embracing this flow and letting go of the need for certainty, redefining how we perceive ourselves and our challenges.
The urge to fix ourselves and our lives stems from a fear of not being okay with the present moment.
Recognizing that thoughts create the illusion of permanence allows for a deeper understanding that nothing in life is ever truly fixed.
Deep dives
The Nature of Fixing
The concept of 'fixing' is often intertwined with the desire to correct problems, both external and internal. Many people feel compelled to fix themselves or their lives, suggesting a perspective rooted in separation and fear. This urge to correct perceived issues consumes a significant amount of mental and emotional energy, as individuals grapple with the belief that life needs to be improved or altered in some way. When one pauses these thoughts and routines, it becomes apparent how natural this inclination to fix really is, revealing that much of it stems from a fear of not being okay with life as it currently is.
Questioning the Need for Change
Living from the perspective of separation often leads to the assumption that things would be better if they changed, but this belief warrants deeper scrutiny. The idea that life needs correction or improvement is fundamentally an assumption rather than a truth derived from direct experience. By observing the space between thoughts, one can recognize that there is often no actual problem to address, as much of the time our perceptions are merely the products of momentary thoughts. This process of questioning reveals that the urgency to fix things frequently originates from a thought that everything needs to be altered, rather than a realization of current reality.
The Illusion of Fixity in Thoughts
Thoughts frequently create the illusion of fixedness, implying that experiences, identities, or problems are stable and concrete. In reality, experiences and thoughts are fluid and ever-changing, often misleading individuals into believing in their permanence. This perception fosters feelings of being stuck or solidified in a particular state, when in fact, these are transient moments determined by temporary thoughts. Understanding that nothing is truly fixed helps to alleviate suffering; if everything is in motion, then the notion of needing to fix something loses its power and significance.
In this episode, we explore two definitions of the word fix. There is to fix, as in to correct. We try to correct or fix a problem, or ourselves, or the way life appears to be unfolding. The other is to fix something into place, as in to solidify. Identities, opinions, and problems appear more or