Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends: Understanding Boundaries, Identity, and Reciprocity

Why It’s Hard for Therapists to Be Friends

Curt and Katie chat about why therapists often struggle with friendships—especially with non-therapists. They explore the impact of emotional labor, overidentifying as caretakers, and the challenges of setting boundaries and expressing needs in personal relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Therapists often default to caretaking in friendships, especially if they have a history of being “the helper.”

• Emotional exhaustion from client work can make socializing difficult.

• Confidentiality and identity boundaries limit what therapists can share about their day.

• Friendships become healthier when therapists drop the therapist role and prioritize reciprocity.

• Intentional communication and boundary-setting help create sustainable relationships.

More information and transcripts available at:
https://mtsgpodcast.com

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Creative Credits:
Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano
Voiceover by DW McCann