How To Know If You’ve Found “The One”: The Science of Soulmates

Sep 22, 2025

Explore the fascinating science behind soulmates and long-lasting love. Discover why our cultural obsession with 'the one' may hinder real connections. Learn about the psychology of attraction and compatibility, and the surprising predictors of relationship success. Delve into the Michelangelo Effect and hear two key questions that can clarify if someone's truly your person. Whether you’re in a relationship or dating, gain insights to empower your view on love.

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ANECDOTE

How Liz Met Her Husband

Liz met her husband Zach at a bar when she was 21 and they connected instantly that night.
They have built a 16+ year relationship through time, communication, and shared experiences.

INSIGHT

Destiny Belief Harms Relationships

The destiny belief says love is predetermined and you either find your other half or you don't.
Research links strong destiny beliefs to leaving relationships when conflict appears.

ADVICE

Choose Growth Over Fate

Adopt a growth belief and view conflict as an opportunity to learn and grow together.
Embrace resilience and expect to work through challenges rather than assume doom.

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Do you believe in soulmates? I dive deep into the science to see what really makes love last and share my own love story with my husband, Zack.

I’ll walk you through the psychological concept of “destiny belief” to what the research actually says about compatibility. You’ll also hear about the “Michelangelo Effect,” the power of values alignment, and what the best predictor of relationship satisfaction is. I’ll also share two questions that have helped me and so many others figure out if a partner is truly “the one.”

Whether you're dating, partnered, or just reevaluating what love should look like, this episode will help you to see things in a more freeing, empowering way.

We get into:

Why our cultural obsession with “the one” might be holding us back
The surprising science behind attraction, compatibility, and real connection
What actually predicts long-term relationship success (hint: it’s not fate)
Two questions that will let you know if someone is truly “your person”

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