Dating Intentionally 184. Chasing vs Pursuing: When To Show Interest (And When To Move On)
Jul 15, 2025
Discover the fine line between healthy pursuit and unhealthy chasing in dating. Learn to spot subtle signs that indicate disinterest and how to save your energy. Personal experiences shed light on mutual interest and the discomfort of unreciprocated affection. The conversation covers effective communication, responding to listener dilemmas, and ensuring boundaries are respected. Plus, tackle the challenges of vague signals with a fresh perspective on dating dynamics.
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Talia's Early Chasing Experience
- Talia Koren shares how she used to chase men throughout her early 20s due to ego, despite knowing long-term relationships don’t start with chasing.
- She recalls asking a guy why he didn't like her, highlighting the cringe-worthy and unattractive nature of chasing behavior.
Being Chased Uncomfortably
- Talia recounts being chased by a guy she wasn’t interested in who continued contacting her after she clearly rejected him.
- She emphasizes that chronic chasing causes discomfort for both parties and encourages chasers to take the hint and stop pursuing.
Defining Chasing in Dating
- Chasing means continuing pursuit after the other person has clearly opted out or expressed disinterest.
- It also includes faking interests or initiating every interaction without reciprocation, all of which involve inauthenticity.