Laurie Santos, an Associate Professor of Psychology at Yale University, challenges the notion that relentless self-improvement leads to happiness. She discusses the downsides of perfectionism and how the hustle culture can harm both individual well-being and community harmony. Santos emphasizes the power of self-compassion—encouraging kindness towards ourselves and others—as a remedy. She advocates for gratitude and reflection to enhance happiness, suggesting that genuine fulfillment stems from community support, not just personal achievement.
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Evolutionary Drive For Constant Improvement
Humans evolved to keep improving rather than stop and enjoy achievements.
In modern environments with endless comparison, this drive can undermine well-being.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Ivy League Students Still Feel Inadequate
Laurie Santos describes Ivy League undergraduates who achieved a lot yet feel they're not doing enough.
These students illustrate how external achievement doesn't prevent chronic dissatisfaction.
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More Pushes Harm Society And Self
The push for more harms both society and individual happiness.
Competition fosters individualism and undermines collective goodwill.
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What if our incessant drive for self-improvement isn't always conducive to happiness?
Cognitive scientist Laurie Santos proposes this intriguing question. She notes that while evolution has wired us for relentless self-enhancement, our modern environment, ripe with comparisons and demands for excellence, amplifies this instinct, often to our detriment. The incessant push for "more" and "better" can lead to societal harm, fostering a competitive, individualistic society rather than one rooted in collective harmony and goodwill. Moreover, it can compromise personal happiness. Genuine well-being, Santos suggests, arises from extending compassion towards others and ourselves.
Self-compassion, defined as mindfulness, recognition of common humanity, and self-kindness, can surprisingly enhance performance and resilience without a drill-sergeant approach. Breaking free from the pervasive "hustle culture" requires acknowledging its illusory nature, prioritizing kindness towards oneself, orienting towards others, and practicing gratitude to appreciate one's journey.
0:00 The drive for perfection
1:48 2 consequences of pushing too hard
2:38 3 parts of self-compassion
4:15 Why hustle culture is toxic
4:59 Happiness comes from other-oriented behavior
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About Laurie Santos:
Dr. Laurie Santos is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Yale University. Her research provides an interface between evolutionary biology, developmental psychology, and cognitive neuroscience, exploring the evolutionary origins of the human mind by comparing the cognitive abilities of human and non-human primates. Her experiments focus on non-human primates (in captivity and in the field), incorporating methodologies from cognitive development, animal learning psychology, and cognitive neuroscience.
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