Living with Heart: From Birth to Death 78 - Out of the Pit: Living in Recovery
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The Pitfalls of Leadership are descending steps, one connects to the other with predictable effects.
Some leaders have referred to the descent as a “chain reaction.”
The descent can be stopped at any time, with an intervention from others who the leader listens and healthily responds to, or a cry out from the leader in descent who is heard and responded to by others.
The Five Pitfalls:
- Work becomes confused with one’s worth.
- Performance begins to be valued more than one’s presence.
- People become things.
- To be an example to others, the true self is isolated.
- Secrets sap one’s passion and purpose.
These pitfalls can destroy careers, friendships, reputations, marriages and families—unless one is freed from them.
Living in freedom from the Pitfalls is work. It is a daily activity and a lifestyle.
In the Pitfalls, we are driven by what we are running from. Essentially, we are running from:
- Feelings, needs, desire, longings, and hope that expose our vulnerability;
- Telling the truth about our hearts that expresses our need of others;
- Trusting a process that we are not in control of, which expresses our distrust of God.
The daily activities that become the recovering leader’s lifestyle are:
- Confession - the acknowledgment of my own healthy shame, and need of others and God.
- Admission - the full awareness that I do not have control over life, and the more I attempt to get control, the more unmanageable my life becomes.
- Surrender - practicing believing and trusting that God has control; therefore, I give myself to God and the way God works, because my attempt to control life hasn’t worked.
- Acceptance - the practice of turning my heart and life over to God who cares for me, knowing that whatever happens, God wants good for me because I am loved.
Daily activities have to be practiced until we see the results and their benefits;
The daily practices become a lifestyle.
The leader eventually desires for his/her life to be different and adopts the new lifestyle because it is “better” than what life was like in the Pitfalls.