How to Come Back From Loosing Everything With Real Estate

This conversation is a deep-dive with real estate investor John Bar, someone who’s been in the trenches long before the big wins came. He talks about how competitive the real estate space can be—where a $3,000 difference in a contract offer can mean the difference between landing or losing a deal. In a world where "money talks," John breaks down why the pitch matters just as much as the numbers, and how knowing the ins and outs of the contract can make or break a negotiation.John also sheds light on the reality behind those criticized “lowball” offers, using a real-world example of a $100,000 deal that initially looked small but ended up turning a significant profit after uncovering unexpected opportunities—like a bank note that was only $18,000. This kind of insight sets the tone for the episode, showing how creative deal structuring and persistence can lead to major wins.From there, the episode takes a more personal turn. John shares his backstory, growing up in a household full of instability, moving over a dozen times before sixth grade as his father transitioned from being a geologist to a doctor. He opens up about losing both his grandfather and father at a young age, and how those traumas shaped his drive and character. Despite a rough start in college—partying too hard and ending up on academic probation—John refocused, transferred schools, and graduated with a double major in Construction Management and Business.After internships across the country, John landed in San Antonio, Texas, working commercial construction with a major subcontractor. But that wasn’t the end of the story—it was just the start. This episode isn’t just about deals and dollars. It’s about resilience, mindset, and the journey from chaos to control. Whether you’re in real estate or just figuring out your own path, John’s story offers something real: the grind behind the success.