Raising Boys & Girls Episode 333: Finding Your Peace as a Parent (and Finding Your No, too) with Enneagram 9’s, Hillary Rector & Andy Gullahorn
Dec 11, 2025
Join singer-songwriter Hillary Rector and musician Andy Gullahorn as they explore the unique perspectives of parenting as Enneagram Nines. They discuss the balance of being adaptable and calm while facing challenges like delayed emotions and voicing needs. With heartfelt anecdotes, they highlight how their traits help foster nurturing family environments and suggest ways to gently encourage their children to express themselves. Their insights offer a warm invitation for parents of Nines to embrace both the strengths and growth opportunities in this journey.
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The Quiet Strength And Cost Of Being A Nine
- Nines genuinely experience ease, adaptability, and likability as a natural orientation.
- That calm presence can mask delayed emotions and uncertainty about personal desires.
Song As A Teenage Declaration
- Andy wrote a song as a teenager called "Speedy Train" about preferring his slower pace to others' hurry.
- The song captured a thirteen to fifteen-year-old response to pressure to move faster than he valued.
Disney World And The Hard No
- Sissy described a recent Disney World moment where she struggled to say a firm no to a nephew's impulsive purchases.
- The situation highlighted how avoiding conflict weakens the ability to enforce limits with kids.
