Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal Snippet 20: 4 Signs That Your Relationship Will Fail - Relationship Experts Dr John & Julie Gottman
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Apr 11, 2023 Drs. John and Julie Gottman reveal intriguing insights from four decades of relationship research. They discuss the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse,' detailing negative behaviors that can signal relationship trouble. The podcast emphasizes the importance of fostering positive emotions and effective communication, especially during conflicts. Listeners learn about the physiological responses to arguments and practical strategies to improve dialogue, like taking breaks and self-soothing techniques, to sustain healthier relationships.
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Positive vs. Negative Emotion Ratio
- Masters of relationships display five times more positive emotion than negative, even during conflict.
- Disastrous relationships have slightly more negativity than positivity.
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
- The "Four Horsemen" are negative patterns that predict relationship failure.
- These patterns can forecast with 90% accuracy the state of a relationship six years later.
Criticism
- Criticism, the first horseman, involves attacking your partner's character, not their behavior.
- There's no such thing as "constructive criticism" in a relationship, as all criticism is harmful.