On Attachment

#127: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Jan 16, 2024

The podcast explores the topic of comparison and its effects on our self-worth and relationships. It delves into the challenges of comparison in modern culture and offers advice on building self-worth. The damaging effects of comparison stem from low self-worth, emphasizing the importance of building self-confidence. The podcast introduces the Secure Self challenge, a 28-day program aimed at developing self-worth through audio lessons, challenges, and a community.

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Comparison is a universal experience intensified by our modern culture and affects those with low self-worth and insecurity.

Constantly comparing ourselves hinders authentic connections and fosters anxiety, but building self-worth helps reduce the inclination to compare and nurtures healthy relationships.

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The Universal Tendency to Compare Ourselves to Others

Comparison is a topic that is universally relatable and affects all of us to some degree. In our modern culture, with an oversupply of information and exposure to others' lives, comparison can be magnified. Those with low self-worth and insecurity are particularly prone to comparison. The tendency to compare ourselves to others arises from a belief that we are in competition and need to prove ourselves. However, constantly comparing ourselves can be exhausting and detrimental to our well-being.

Introduction

2min

Overcoming Comparison and Building Self-Worth

2min

The Challenges of Comparison in Our Modern Culture

3min

The Damaging Effects of Comparison: Building Self-Worth

9min

Building Self-Worth and the Secure Self Challenge

2min

In today's episode, we're talking all about comparison. Comparison is one of those things that we're all susceptible to at some point or another: we compare ourselves based on appearance, personality, success, relationships. It can sometimes seem like there's a neverending list of reasons to feel dissatisfied or inadequate when we look at our lives relative to someone else's.

And yet, while comparison is arguably a universal human experience, it's undeniable that some of us struggle with the comparison trap more than others - sometimes to the point where it feels debilitating and destructive to our sense of self.

We'll cover:

why some people are more susceptible to the comparison trap than others
how this tendency interfaces with other struggles like unworthiness, jealousy, anxious attachment, and fear of abandonment
how building our self-worth can help us to shift focus away from others and build more genuine self-confidence

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