EPISODE 213: What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 3 (Doggy Style, Aging, Leg Hair & More!)

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Jun 20, 2025

Dive into the intriguing minds of men as they candidly discuss everything from their thoughts on doggy style to unexpected preferences in intimacy. Discover their humorous takes on aging and societal expectations while navigating the complexities of relationships. The conversation shines a light on personal grooming choices and how they impact attraction. Plus, get insights into what keeps them engaged in love and life, and the surprising truths about daily life dynamics. Laughter and honesty collide in this revealing exploration!

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What Men Notice in Doggy Style

Xander shares that during doggy style, he occasionally looks at Vanessa's butthole but doesn't find it gross.
He appreciates all parts of her naked body and rarely focuses on details like hair or color.

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Men and Home Decor Involvement

Men often care about home decor but less than their female partners, and may feel their opinions are overlooked.
Sometimes men give up on influencing decor because decisions feel finalized without their input.

INSIGHT

Beyond Physical Beauty in Relationships

Xander rejects comparing Vanessa's beauty to others because his attraction includes much more than physical looks.
He appreciates her unique qualities after 18 years, making superficial comparisons irrelevant.

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Have you ever wanted a peek inside a man’s brain? 🧠

We’re back with Part 3 of one of our most talked-about episode series — answering all the burning, bizarre, and brutally honest questions you’ve always wanted to ask men.

This week, we’re diving into what men really think about everything from doggy style to aging to the internet daddy of the moment, Pedro Pascal.

🎙️ Here’s what we’re getting into:

What are men actually looking at during doggy style?
What do they think when they see a woman who’s prettier than their partner?
Is it true they can literally… think about nothing?
How do they feel about things like…

Women aging, messy buns, leg hair, and more

How do they stay so chill about daily life stuff (kid schedules, groceries, appointments)?
What really keeps them engaged in a relationship?

This one is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. And of course, Xander’s not holding back.

🔗 Links & Resources:

🎧 What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 1 ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode56

🎧 What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 2 ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode69

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