Ep. 236: Dr. Carla Naumburg — How to Handle Tough Emotions Without Freaking Out
Sep 11, 2024
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In this engaging conversation, Dr. Carla Naumburg, a clinical social worker and author, shares insights from her latest book on managing overwhelming emotions. She discusses the balance between acknowledging emotions and controlling freak-outs, the role of the prefrontal cortex, and strategies for handling emotional triggers. Dr. Naumburg highlights the importance of body awareness in emotional regulation and explores whether venting anger through physical means, like punching a pillow, is truly effective. Her practical advice makes navigating tough feelings more approachable.
Understanding the difference between strong emotions and freak-outs helps foster better emotional regulation and resilience in children.
Recognizing personal triggers and responding with practical coping strategies allows individuals to manage their emotional reactions effectively.
Deep dives
Understanding Freak Outs
A freak out is defined as an overwhelming internal and external experience of feeling out of control, often triggered by strong emotions. The acronym FART is used to describe its characteristics, where 'F' stands for feelings, highlighting that these reactions are emotionally powered. The 'A' and 'R' signify that freak outs are automatic and reactive, typically escalating suddenly without warning. In children, the 'T' represents that their reaction is often too much for the situation, indicating a disproportionate response to the triggering event.
Balancing Expression and Regulation
It is essential to strike a balance between acknowledging emotions and diminishing the intensity of freak outs. Normalizing the experience of freak outs helps individuals give themselves grace during emotional upheavals, while also emphasizing the difference between experiencing strong emotions and losing control. The book aims to help children understand the distinction between intense emotional experiences and freak outs, enabling them to express their feelings appropriately without spiraling into chaos. This understanding allows for healthier emotional regulation, fostering resilience in handling life's challenges.
Identifying and Managing Triggers
Recognizing one's button pushers—elements that provoke strong reactions—plays a crucial role in managing freak outs. This awareness enables individuals to either remove themselves from triggering situations or prepare effectively to deal with them. Practical strategies include adjusting environments, such as changing seating arrangements in classrooms or using calming techniques after encountering a trigger. By developing a set of tools for coping with emotional responses, individuals can better manage their reactions and maintain emotional stability.