Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy Foreplay Replay - The Gleam in Their Eye Makes Us Hot
Oct 6, 2025
Explore the enchanting connection between desire and the gleam in your partner's eyes. Discover how early childhood attachments shape adult relationships and the importance of feeling desired. Learn the difference between willingness and true desire, plus effective ways to communicate needs without coming off as critical. Uncover practical strategies for rebuilding that spark with intentional actions, and see how vulnerability can foster deeper connections. Rediscover the joy of being the one who excites your partner!
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Willingness Can Start Desire
- Sexual desire often begins as willingness rather than spontaneous bodily arousal.
- Early caregiving gaze (the "gleam") links belonging to adult sexual desire.
The Gaze Builds Attachment
- The infant's experience of being gazed at creates secure attachment foundations.
- That early nonverbal mirroring shapes adult needs for being visibly desired.
Relearning To Look At My Baby
- Dr. Lori Watson recounts nursing her third child and realizing she wasn't engaging him with eye contact.
- She consciously re-engaged his face to restore that important connection.