#328; What is progress - Without THIS you cant live your life the way you want NOT live a life that you love/ Stu Graham

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/UJhNkPTF6Ib

Resilience is the real flex

This is where people can be a bottle neck to themselves in not being patient in this process

Resistance is not bad

What people think they need to do to get to their goal is rarely reality

And how most advice out there sets people up to yoyo or be

Start action and then you get motivation but no

Motivation needs to be there and we do have it. Thats why you want change. Its just we put it into the wrong places with the wrong ideas of

Meet ourselves where we are

YIN x YANG

Discipline isnt bad, its just how its used

Its not the tool but how its used

You wont always enjoy it but itll come. Kind of like my running. And then i started loving the hate for it for how it makes me feel

The reason why i have confidence and where i am now is because i do something hard more often than not

constantly chasing more thinking that will make them happy

Or just checking boxes

Where does the relationship with our bodies and food come into this and our past stories are

MOTIVATION…. How relying on it sets you back and thinking you need more willpower and discipline sets you back. They are parts of the process no doubt, but how we use them is all wrong

We cant change what we arent aware of

Sense of self is more than one thing, we are many dimensions of self

We are too busy trying to make a masterpiece of our bodies and fix that stuff over making our lives our masterpiece, we are forgetting how all of that is the soil on which we are doing the gardening of our habits, actions and selves

Visual accommodation

You cant think yourself out of a thinking dilemma or fix something with the same mindset that created it

You cant see the box from the inside, or the storm from the inside

You question everything except that which you absolutely believe to be true

Becoming more aware in itself is progress

Emotions

We arent rational humans

Fat loss is never the happy end point. Its part of the process but a goal usually as a means to a greater goal that has more holding power - because yes some people have fat to lose and many may need to lose a decent amount for health - but its rarely ever a holding force for results beacuse we can easily sabotage our way back to where we were before or worse

What is progress - Without THIS you cant live your life the way you want NOT live a life that you love

Dj board dials

They may make amazing music at times but at other times just sound like noise

The more you try to force, pressure, berate, control.. The less you actually have

You can get all the progress, make amazing changes, but never even realise it because you didnt work on the relationship with your body image and self or do the inner work

You didnt look into your actual LIFE

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

Yes health seeking but it seems like people think that that and body goals are 2 different things

They arent 2 different things its health AND physique

I like focusing on performance. Health drives performance. Fuel and nourishment drives it. Respecting youself improves it

And performance is also perf in life → physique

Realities of progress. The diminishing returns as you advance

Measures of progress that matter more as physique change is slow

How the scale sets us back and many others back

exhaust ourselves with more stress which further sends us backwards vs asking for help and realising old keys wont open new doors

I have a saying that “youll never get results with any new approach or coach if you keep the same mindset as all the prior times you failed or fell off or quit”[

Lets dig in

Again unrealistix expectations

Cognitive distortions in your journey and how chasing a former you holds you back

How you can make huge changes in a small amount of time and what those look liek in reality - and how not seeing those as the biggest pieces of the transformation puzzle will hold you back long term because nothing else is permanent without it