“Finished, For Now”: Planning, Overwhelm, and Motivation
Nov 30, 2023
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Discussion on the challenges of focusing on important but not urgent tasks, belief system around focus, guilt and the challenge of assessing urgency and importance, and the importance of adding buffer time in your schedule.
Transitioning from urgent and important tasks to important but not urgent tasks can be challenging for individuals with ADHD, but buffer time and self-awareness can help ease the transition.
Embracing the idea of being 'finished right now' and acknowledging that tasks are complete at this moment can help combat perfectionism tendencies and allow individuals to move on to other tasks.
Deep dives
Challenges of Transitioning Between Tasks
Transitioning from urgent and important tasks to important but not urgent tasks can be challenging for individuals with ADHD. The emotional attachment to unresolved tasks in the urgent and important category can make it difficult to focus on other tasks. Guilt and the fear of letting others down can also come into play. Buffer time and self-awareness can help ease the transition and provide space to check in with one's emotions. Separating negative emotions from the work and recognizing that waiting is a part of life can help navigate the challenges.
The Importance of Resolving Tasks to the Best of Your Ability
A key aspect of moving on from urgent and important tasks is resolving them to the best of one's ability. Embracing the idea of being 'finished right now' and acknowledging that tasks are complete at this moment can help combat perfectionism tendencies. Rather than striving for complete resolution, which can be unrealistic, individuals can find relief in knowing they have done their best and are ready to move on.
Recognizing the Emotional Attachment to Tasks
Many individuals with ADHD feel emotionally connected to their tasks, particularly in the urgent and important category. This can lead to difficulty in detaching from those tasks and focusing on other areas of work. The desire to be seen as attentive and ready to address urgent tasks for others can also contribute to this emotional attachment. Taking time to understand the emotions involved and acknowledging that they may not always align with the actual importance of the task can help in finding a healthier perspective.
Creating Space for Choices and Acceptance
Creating space for choices and acceptance is crucial in dealing with the complexities of task management. Rather than fighting against oneself and feeling limited by the inability to focus on certain tasks, individuals can embrace the freedom of choice and prioritize what is most important in the present moment. This includes accepting that there will always be pending tasks, but focusing on what can be done right now and making choices that align with personal goals and values.
Pete’s in the hot seat this week as Nikki walks through a listener question of the motivational variety. For reference, here it is:
“When we have a plan of quadrant two tasks, important but not urgent, it is impossible to focus on those at all if there are ANY quadrant one tasks... urgent and important... unresolved. What’s interesting is that you might think, sure ... do those. They’re urgent and important. But the problem is that maybe you’ve done your part on them. You’re waiting for an email response... you are time-blocked from doing anything about it because a store isn’t open... something like that. It’s unresolved, AND you can’t do anything about it, AND you can’t focus on anything else that is on your list that would move other projects forward as a result.”
There’s an emotional yo-yo at work here, and you can bet there is a healthy dose of limiting beliefs. But there is also a very real connection between this attachment and the ADHD brain. Nikki walks Pete through an exercise that aims to make this relationship a bit softer.