PT Profit Podcast The Truth About Dating Toxic: Coach Shonda's 6M View Secret
The Truth About Dating Toxic: Coach Shonda's 6M View Secret
Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode of the PT Profit Podcast (Episode 427), host interviews Coach Shonda Howard, a relationship coach who helps women over 30break free from toxic dating patterns and find lasting love. Shonda shares her remarkable personal journey from struggling with emotionally unavailable men in New York City to building a thriving coaching business that has generated over 6 million views and consistent revenue. The episode dives deep into the psychology of attachment styles, the power of conversion content in her business, and how doing inner work on your nervous system and subconscious mind directly impacts your ability to attract healthy relationships. Shonda reveals that her success—both in love and in business—came from understanding that your external reality is a mirror of your internal programming, and that by becoming securely attached and aligned with your values, you naturally magnetize the right people and opportunities into your life.
0:00-2:00: Introduction to Coach Shonda and her mission to help women over 30 find their perfect match and escape toxic dating patterns
- 2:00-8:00: Shonda's personal story—living in New York City for 15 years, struggling with emotionally unavailable men, and the moment she realized something had to change
- 8:00-12:00: The turning point: recognizing the pattern of attracting avoidant men and understanding her anxious-avoidant attachment style
- 12:00-18:00: Understanding secure attachment—what it means to show up in dating from a grounded place without needing validation from a partner
- 18:00-25:00: The distinction between being okay with being single as a means to an end versus genuinely accepting your current state while still desiring partnership
- 25:00-32:00: The importance of self-love and treating yourself the way you want to be treated by others
- 32:00-38:00: Navigating the timeline: how long it takes to find your person (Shonda did it in 5 months) and why letting go of rigid timelines is crucial
- 38:00-45:00: The power of being present and magnetic—using presence as a life hack in dating and relationships
- 45:00-52:00: Grounding techniques and tools Shonda teaches: five senses walks, five senses meditations, 5-4-3-2-1 grounding techniques, and hypnotherapy meditations
- 52:00-60:00: The ripple effects of doing inner work—how Shonda's entire life transformed (career promotion, weight loss, dream vacations, changed friendships) before she even met her husband
- 60:00-68:00: How becoming a different version of yourself attracts different people—Shonda's transformation from harsh/abrasive to vulnerable and soft
- 68:00-75:00: The "Ladder Effect"—as you do subconscious work, you naturally attract progressively better partners who align more with your values
- 75:00-85:00: Navigating discomfort in dating and rejection—making a commitment to feel uncomfortable and process emotions through self-soothing
- 85:00-95:00: Attracting the right partner by getting clear on your values and worldview, then finding someone who aligns on foundational pieces
LINKS + RESOURCES
Follow Coach Shonda on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/shondahowardlove/
Listen to Shonda’s podcast — Finding Love After 30:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-love-after-30/id1638742239
Get the Dating Optimization Bio Toolkit:
https://shondahoward.thrivecart.com/the-dating-app-optimization-toolkit-lto
Free Masterclass — How to Stop Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men and Attract t