Why Do Women Always Want to Change Men?

Men often feel like women are trying to change them, which of course causes conflict in their relationship. Men want to be accepted “for who they are”, but this doesn’t mean accepting mens’ shadow. Instead, it means loving and accepting them while desiring growth and change if their patterns stem from wounding.

Men need to set healthy boundaries. If someone is trying to change a man in a way that goes against his truth, he must express his values and stand in his integrity. Boundaries allow us all to maintain conscious relationships and honour our own growth.

When we misinterpret our partners’ need for a deeper and authentic connection, we put strain on the relationship. Unresolved conflicts and unaddressed wounds can lead to a lack of trust, intimacy, and satisfaction. So we need to embrace the opportunity for growth and evolve together.

In this episode, Lorin explains how, by examining our own patterns and wounds, we can reflect on whether we are identifying ourselves with our shadows or operating from our highest truth. This cultivates self-awareness and creates healthier dynamics in our relationships.

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Evolve – October 3rd, 2025
An intimate afternoon and evening with Lorin Krenn in London