The Cabrera Lab Podcast #92: Think It Through: The Feedback You Don’t Want Is the Feedback You Need
Nov 5, 2025
Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera tackle the universal struggle of accepting tough feedback. They reveal how we build protective mental walls around our self-image, blocking growth. With humor and insights, they introduce the concept of a semi-permeable mind, encouraging openness to truth while protecting core values. They suggest practical tools like is/is-not lists to uncover rigid self-beliefs and share strategies to transform feedback from something painful into a path for improvement. Embrace feedback to accelerate personal growth!
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Self-Concept As A Protective Wall
- People build a protective, often impermeable, wall around their self-concept that blocks feedback.
- That wall usually arises from insecurity and creates an echo chamber that prevents growth.
Create A Semi-Permeable Mind
- Make your mind a semi-permeable membrane so feedback can enter while still protecting essentials.
- Decide which parts of your self-concept are negotiable and which are untouchable before reacting.
Use An Is/Is Not List
- Write an 'is/is not' list for your self-concept to separate sacred cows from negotiable traits.
- Ask yourself why certain self-beliefs are off-limits to understand their origin and necessity.